Getting rid of the Solara...

[Black Bob]

^^^Although I've been known to dabble in a "little bit" of alcohol meself I can respect that.

I hope it ain't your stepmom putting a bug in your dad's ear about selling the 'Lara because I gotta tellya brutha--if I had to choose between living with my second old lady naggin' my ear every frikken day about the car or my son keeping the car I'd have to choose the ol' lady.

[TadS]

Here's a thought, maybe your dad doesn't like your girl. For whatever reason he believes that taking you ride will mess up your relationship.

[Solara08861]

Poor kid is already pu**y whipped and he has not even gotten any...

Damn spoiled kids...

[wkbrdr91]

Here's a thought, maybe your dad doesn't like your girl. For whatever reason he believes that taking you ride will mess up your relationship.

no he likes her, and he knows that if he dosen't let me take the car then she will drive us, she lives 5 houses down the street and has her own car.

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But a car update: He told me earlier today that he dosent think i appreciate the car, then later got into it to fix my horns, and mentioned how perfectly clean it was, and that he was impressed. he then constantly referred to it as being my car, and he ususally makes sure to say that its HIS car, or he just says "the Solara"

[DriDed]

But a car update: He told me earlier today that he dosent think i appreciate the car, then later got into it to fix my horns, and mentioned how perfectly clean it was, and that he was impressed. he then constantly referred to it as being my car, and he ususally makes sure to say that its HIS car, or he just says "the Solara"

He knows the Solara is your baby, I am pretty sure its yours.

[Black Bob]

It's HIS car, it's YOUR car--what goin' on here? Is your dad just plain screwin' with your head? If so, screw with him back by putting bare footprints on the inside back window, an empty can of whipcream on the floorboard and spread a few empty cans of Milwaukee's Be(a)st around. He'll either high five ya and give you the car or high five ya and take it away out of jealousy.

[wkbrdr91]

It's HIS car, it's YOUR car--what goin' on here? Is your dad just plain screwin' with your head? If so, screw with him back by putting bare footprints on the inside back window, an empty can of whipcream on the floorboard and spread a few empty cans of Milwaukee's Be(a)st around. He'll either high five ya and give you the car or high five ya and take it away out of jealousy.

I would love to see the reaction of that hahaha, he would definitely take the car forever though lol (mainly cause of the alcohol)

That reminds me of when we installed the subwoofers though.... when we were pulling stuff out of the car to do that, he found 5 airplane sized bottles of vodka in the car... all of which were his, but he didnt remember it at first (before i turned 16 he would drive the car on long trips, and sometimes just around town just so the car was used, by the time i was 16 it had about 8 thousand miles on it, now has 21 thousand)

[DriDed]

I have a feeling that you are going to keep the Solara after all, I guess he might be playing early April's Fools!

[jetbtkng]

just get him some of those little bottles of vodka, and say i'll trade you for the car..................

[wkbrdr91]

So apparently my new "rule" is no more than 10 miles from the house... he hasnt said why though, dont want to push it and ask. but i just got home from a dance with my girlfriend and man have i missed the subwoofers and SRI in that car!!!!

[DriDed]

So apparently my new "rule" is no more than 10 miles from the house... he hasnt said why though, dont want to push it and ask. but i just got home from a dance with my girlfriend and man have i missed the subwoofers and SRI in that car!!!!

What happened to the SRI? Did you sell it?

Let me know if you want to, I can install it on my dad's 2AZ Camry haha.

[TLMNICK]

Your dad is messing with your head man. He'll probably take it away again sometime in the near future.

I somehow think you'd be better off with your OWN car.

[BadAngel]

My parents don't even care if I get a lady pregnant, they actually want that to happen (its a long story).

Don't fall for that "I-just-need-grandkids" trap!!! Yeah, your parents want grandkids at first and then later they want a daughter-in-law with a $110,000 wedding involving horse-drawn carriages, ceremonial doves and midget jugglers and when you need a babysitter to go kick it with your friends they're changing the locks and not returning your phone calls. Don't fall for it man!!

And I think wkbrdr91 should skip premarital sex and go straight to underage drinking for now--to quote Homer Simpson: "Here's to alcohol: the cause of, and solution to, all of life's problems."

haha I used to drink, but my gf hates it, it really really bothers her, even if im not with her. and I promised her i wouldn't, so i wont anymore. plus im converting to a more specific branch of Christianity which strictly forbids drinking at all.... So no more alcohol for me!! lol

Bro really? Like no disrespect to your girlfriend or your relationship but you seem to be doing an awful lot of things just because she doesnt like otherwise. I mean i quit weed for my girlfriend... which is a bit of a diff story cuz its illegal (more so that alcohol underage) Either way your going to realize one way or another whether you listen to whoever says it or you learn yourself( i didnt listen to anyone... my friends all told me but i had to learn on my own the hard way) She should love you for who you are, not try to change you. If she really hates drinking than you could compromise and only do it on special occasions, but just stopping something you enjoy because she simply doesn't like it is just disrespecting yourself as a person IMHO. A healthy relationship is about compromise. My ex girlfriend hated smoking of all sorts, and tried to get me to stop smoking cigars. Its something me and my friends did once in a blue moon to chill out and get closer to each other. I told her this and she was reluctant but dealt with it because she understood the circumstances.

I understand exactly how you are feeling and I do not want to change the way you go about your relationship, as i can tell you are crazy for her and more power too you for that. I wish I still had someone in my life like that. I am simply just letting you know what i have learned from past experience. When we broke up i was hurt, and distant from my friends and old way of life due to me letting her change me too much, and i really wouldn't to see anyone else in a similar situation.

That being said, I really have no idea what to say about your dad bro. My dad knows how to be an ass, but he never really confused me about it, he either treated me nice or like crap. None of this in between stuff, i cant quite put my finger on it, but what previous people are saying seems to make sense... Seems like hes trying to prove some sort of a point.

[PhreakdOut]

No one will like this post:

Hate your Dad all you want, but I think his motives are for your own good. You just don't see it yet. Stop and try to see how your situation is going to change the course of your life. Yes, right now is a critical moment that will determine a chain of events yet to come.

1) Look at your current interests and priorities in life. It seems to be girlfriend and car. How much time do you spend with her? How much time do your spend working on your car? For the remaining time, how much time do you spend on SolaraGuy?

2) Your grades were excellent in High School. That doesn't come without hard work so we know you are capable. What University are you attending now? What are you studying What are your career plans? What are your dreams?

In #1, if you honestly answered more than 20% of your time goes to these activities ... then you need to stop and rethink what is important right now.

In #2, if you are not in school right now, then your Dad needs to kick your butt. (Sorry, I didn't read all 5 pages of this thread) You are getting sucked into the free life and enjoying things waaayyyy too early in life.

3) Girlfriend: Dude, you're 18. Even if she's Jenna Jamison, you need to let her go to school and keep the relationship casual. Her family is close by. You will see her again. If you chase her across the country, you fall into a trap that you need to avoid. (More on that in a second.)

4) Getting another car is a burden you don't need right now. You mentioned getting a loan. You plan to get a job in Colorado just to pay for your car? How about rent / housing? Food? Insurance? Gas? Lift tickets? So what time is left for school? Can you afford tuition and books now?


My cold hard advice which I hope you take to heart.
1) Take advantage of his willingness to pay for school. Stay local since you have soooo much offered to you. (House, car, insurance, food, other financial assistance ...) Don't be dumb and proud. School loans choke you for decades to come and the interest you pay is huge. You want to be proud? Offer to pay your Dad back for school bills paid without interest.

2) Get rid of the Solara. (Yes I am saying that.) You love it too much as evidenced by the time spent on it, your CarDomain page and time spend on here. Tell you Dad that you agree it is a distraction on what is important in life. Trade it in on a new Corolla. (Base model with no options.) You need a vehicle that is basic transportation, not something that you will be tempted to modify.

3) Avoid the "L" word while you are in school. Yes, that is "Love." Girls will come and go. By keeping things casual and non-exclusive, you will avoid the traps that can ruin lives. Sounds a bit extreme, I know.

Typical circumstances lead to typical events. College lovers move in together. Rent is shared. Furniture is purchased together. A new car is purchased. One quits school to get a job to pay for the car, rent in a bigger place, etc. The other eventually quits school because they want more stuff. Life seems great so they become engaged. (Not having spent time with others before settling down.) School gets lost because of full time jobs. Night school takes decades till you quit. You end up living in lower middleclass with no college degree and a mountain of bills. Maybe she will stay with you or she will leave and resent you for how life has turned out.

Don't laugh at it. It happens more often that you think. Ask folks what degree they have and then what job they are working. Circumstances change the course in peoples lives without them actually acknowledging it.

You are at a point where you can see the circumstances before they happen. Think 10 to 20 years down the road and focus on where you want to be in life. As each choice in life is presented to you, think about if it will get you closer to that goal or further away.

Talk this over with your Dad. Looking at the house, he must have done well so he probably knows what I am talking about. If you get his help and buy-in to your dreams, he will help make sure you get there. I can say that the mind-games and controlling tactics are just going to push you in the wrong direction. Don't let his mistake become yours.

[DriDed]

^^I agree with what you post there, at least most of it.

The Toyota Corolla has a way bigger aftermarket than the Solara, a Hyndai Accent would be better but it really is a piece of crap.